Blog every day in May Challenge - Day 24 My top 3 worst traits. *Sigh* Yes, yes; you can stop laughing now! We all know there are way more than 3!
I cannot lie.
I just cannot. I am exceedingly honest. I can be diplomatic, but not if it feels false. I can smooth something over to avoid hurting someones feelings, but generally I need to tell it like it is. If I am angry or enthusiastic then all bets are off. I had one boss tell me I had 'nosebleed communication' i.e. - I gave myself a nosebleed getting my point across with a figurative headbutt. He was right, but then he was also a c**nt, as I told him at the office Christmas party. (Burning the bridges, lighting the way!) On the plus side - I am genuine, to a fault. If you ask my opinion you are guaranteed to get it. Also, I will probably respect you enough to tell you the truth, so be careful what you ask.
I do not forgive easily
This is a character trait that I feel bad about and often think about fixing, but never actually do. I would like to be one of those calm, accepting, imagine-the-other-person's pain type of people, and in truth I'm generally a very loyal and understanding friend; but if you cross me enough or betray me I will cut you out of my life and that will be that. Yes, I have been called a princess in an ivory tower, but you know what? Solitude is better than bad company and I would rather put energy into myself or people who I can rely on than spend time trying to fix someone elses faults. I'm not the asshole whisperer and I have no tolerance for bullshit. I've read that the act of forgiving is to free yourself, but in all honesty I think it is better to free my life of bad people, and I am OK with that point of view. What do you mean life is too short? Too short to put up with other peoples shit, I think you mean.
I find it hard to give up.
I never say die - and no, I am not the Energizer bunny. (I wish!) I sometimes think I have too much perseverance. Too much dogged determination. Once, a client told me I was like a dog with a bone, in that I just wouldn't give up. At the time, I took it as a compliment, but I think it is healthier to not flog a dead horse. Just say You know what? I gave it a good go, but I am done. I can do nothing more here, I am wasting my energy in this situation. But there is just something in me that keeps going and going and going, long after reasonable people have thrown in the towel. For example, we are not planning on moving, but I would feel like a failure if we sold this house without completing all of the renovations we have planned. Even if I won the lottery, I might buy another house but I would continue the renovations here. Crazy huh? I think it is better to pick your battles and walk away, and it is something I am actively trying to do.
So what is the verdict? Do you think I am a sociopath or do you have some worse traits to share? >insert evil laugh here<
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I cannot lie.
I just cannot. I am exceedingly honest. I can be diplomatic, but not if it feels false. I can smooth something over to avoid hurting someones feelings, but generally I need to tell it like it is. If I am angry or enthusiastic then all bets are off. I had one boss tell me I had 'nosebleed communication' i.e. - I gave myself a nosebleed getting my point across with a figurative headbutt. He was right, but then he was also a c**nt, as I told him at the office Christmas party. (Burning the bridges, lighting the way!) On the plus side - I am genuine, to a fault. If you ask my opinion you are guaranteed to get it. Also, I will probably respect you enough to tell you the truth, so be careful what you ask.
I do not forgive easily
This is a character trait that I feel bad about and often think about fixing, but never actually do. I would like to be one of those calm, accepting, imagine-the-other-person's pain type of people, and in truth I'm generally a very loyal and understanding friend; but if you cross me enough or betray me I will cut you out of my life and that will be that. Yes, I have been called a princess in an ivory tower, but you know what? Solitude is better than bad company and I would rather put energy into myself or people who I can rely on than spend time trying to fix someone elses faults. I'm not the asshole whisperer and I have no tolerance for bullshit. I've read that the act of forgiving is to free yourself, but in all honesty I think it is better to free my life of bad people, and I am OK with that point of view. What do you mean life is too short? Too short to put up with other peoples shit, I think you mean.
I find it hard to give up.
I never say die - and no, I am not the Energizer bunny. (I wish!) I sometimes think I have too much perseverance. Too much dogged determination. Once, a client told me I was like a dog with a bone, in that I just wouldn't give up. At the time, I took it as a compliment, but I think it is healthier to not flog a dead horse. Just say You know what? I gave it a good go, but I am done. I can do nothing more here, I am wasting my energy in this situation. But there is just something in me that keeps going and going and going, long after reasonable people have thrown in the towel. For example, we are not planning on moving, but I would feel like a failure if we sold this house without completing all of the renovations we have planned. Even if I won the lottery, I might buy another house but I would continue the renovations here. Crazy huh? I think it is better to pick your battles and walk away, and it is something I am actively trying to do.
So what is the verdict? Do you think I am a sociopath or do you have some worse traits to share? >insert evil laugh here<
xx
