Dealing with Arseholes

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This post has been percolating around my head for a while, so I thought I had better let it out before it starts festering.  It started as a post about Bully's, but really, the Arseholes I refer to are people who are stopping you being your true best self - the authentic, happy person who is meant to realise their full potential during this lifetime. The Arsehole might be your boss, a frenemie, your husband, yourself.

• Be true to yourself, don't change to suit them. You know in your heart what is right & wrong, so don't buy into any controlling behaviour they are trying to exert over you.
• Beat them at their own game. Is your boss constantly showing you up in meetings? Find a way to out dazzle her. Are you constantly doubting yourself with negative inner dialogue? Act on your instinct & prove to yourself that your ideas are worthy.
• Replace the Arseholes space in your life with better things. You really don't need to waste another second playing the game with them. The energy expended in cringing, kowtowing & crying eats up your inner resources, & feeds the Arsehole - they need you more than you need them.
• Be strong & gracious, keep it classy. As tempting as it might be, don't let their bad behaviour be a reflection on you.
• Don't be afraid to call the authority's. Call HR, your bosses boss, a teacher, your higher self. You don't need to put up with fuckery of this sort, & the world of authori-tye is starting to understand that.
• You might not need to actually push them off a cliff, but you deserve to get that Arsehole out of your life. Solitude is better than bad company.

I'm not getting all Oprah on your arse, but don't we all deserve to be the best person we can be without anyone holding us back?

xx